Sex Offenders

Sex Offenders
Married to one: I really en1joyed your article "Hello, My Name Is Pervert" (January 11). It was very interesting and hit close to home. I am married to a so-called sex offender, but I would not trade him for anything.

Your article kind of touched on the people who have gotten a bum deal when it comes to being a sex offender. My husband was arrested for armed robbery of a liquor store a couple of years after his mother's death. He was the only person who took care of his mother while she was being treated for colon cancer.

Anyway, back to the sex offense. During the time he robbed the liquor store at the age of 18 with his cousin who was 17 at the time, he was dating a 12-year-old girl. He was not aware of her actual age but did know that she was under 18. The state added the carnal knowledge charges to his sentence. He served three years in jail and just finished probation. My husband knew the girl's parents and often hunted with her father. The parents did not press any charges, but the state did.

I will be the first to admit there are a lot of sick people in the world, but my husband is not one of them. (That would be my older brother who molested me for years and my parents who did nothing when I told them.) He is very close to his family. His self-worth goes down the toilet every year when he has to go downtown to register. It is funny that wealthy guys such as Woody Allen, Elvis, and Seinfeld can do whatever they want with minors and in-laws and are still idolized, while the common guy is branded for life with a social stigma.

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Editor's note: The Dallas Observer generally does not print unsigned letters. In the case of Mark Donald's story on sex offenders, however, we have allowed publication of some letters in which the writer has not provided his name for obvious and compelling reasons.

You sound like a bleeding heart: My questions are: How old are you? Do you have any experience at all, or is this just another assignment? Do you have any children of your own? Would you like to watch as they are abused or flashed? Do you have any idea of the real damage done or are you just a mindless reporter doing a story? What would you do if one of the recidivist's victims were your son or daughter? You really sound like a bleeding heart with so much compassion for these poor mistreated souls who just made some MINOR mistakes! Do you really want these people to be loosed without restraint or accountability on society? If so, I hope your sons and/or daughters will become their recidivistic, post-polygraphic, "poor us" victims. Then, we will see what really matters to you! Your tone in this article makes me wonder! As usual, another liberal, whatever feels good, anti-conservative, hate the right (forget the evidence), we'll be just like New York and the rest article.

Barry V. Goodgion
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Fear and anxiety: I just wanted to write and say thanks for the article regarding sex offenders. As a sex offender myself, it has been more difficult to carry on since registration has started. It is especially difficult for my wife. My offense took place almost 10 years ago, and since then I have graduated from college, married, gotten a job, and I have climbed up the corporate ladder rather well. I am now making a very good living and have a happy life, but the notification sure adds an element of fear and anxiety that I am not sure anyone is prepared for, nor able to completely deal with.

I am the exception to the rule. There are many who are just as capable as me of getting their lives together, who never get that break, and because of registration and the fear that our nation has, they may never get it.

Again, my life is going in the right direction, but I sit in group with a lot of guys every week who are smart and well-equipped to do great things but are not able to get things going in the right direction. My neighbors have been fairly calm about it. They threatened action, but after talking to several of them, they have dropped any of that talk. Some interact with me like we were old friends, but others will not even look my way when they drive or walk past. If I did not own my house, I am sure that I would have been evicted, and then where would I be today?

People are lying to themselves if they believe this intrusion on people's rights will stop with sex offenders. It will quickly expand to drunken drivers, hot-check writers, and, if we don't stop it quick, to journalists who write "bad" stories. But seriously, where does it stop?

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The victims had no choice: You appeared to have a great deal of empathy for the offenders who are restricted by child safety zones. Do you have an understanding of the children who are victimized by child sexual abuse and the restrictions that they face for a lifetime? The price the offenders pay, they pay for something that they had the privilege of choosing. The victims, however, had no choice. They just had to live with the carnage. Some of your points were well taken. I just wish that you would have broadened your scope.

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