Latin Fever: White Dad Doesn't Approve of Daughter Dating Mexican.

Dear Mexican: I'm a white girl dating a Mexican from Jalisco who works for my dad. There lies the problem. Dad absolutely dislikes him and totally opposes my dating Ignacio and has been almost rude to him, which I don't like.

Some details now: I often visit Dad at his office and in one of those I met Ignacio, deepest dark eyes that I've ever seen. We flirted a little, exchanged phone numbers and that was it for that day. We hit off almost from the beginning, so I feel it was totally natural to start dating him, even if he lives in a not-so-nice place and we have different backgrounds. Of course, Dad gave me a whole speech that night at home, that I should not be talking to people I don't know, what was I thinking, etc. And when we started dating a few days later, he got mad, refused to drive me to the mall and so on.

A few days later, we dated again, and we kissed and started our relationship, and my father started to behave like a drama queen, saying he was disappointed, that he thought he raised a good, decent girl and such things. I had no option but to call him a racist and sore loser, which I'm sorry now to have said. Dad lectures me about my not worrying "about my future" and that I'm "losing it over a beaner," makes a scene many times when I'm going out with Ignacio and calls my cell phone often to "check out what I'm doing." He justifies his behavior because I'm his only daughter and says he wants the "best for me" (read: date a white guy). The fact is that I like my boyfriend a lot and don't see why I need to break up with him just to please my father. It gets complicated because Ignacio says one day he's gonna lose patience and answer back to my Dad, or worse. What can I do to handle Dad's dramas? And to have him accept my relationship with Ignacio?

—Una Confused Gringa

Dear Gabacha: So Nacho is good enough to work for your papi, but not good enough for his daughter? Typical gabacho exploiter...I would flaunt the relationship in front of your dad. Change your name to Xochitl. Blast mariachi in your home. Make your tortillas by hand—better yet, start eating nopales. Totally freak out your dad! But at the same time, be a responsible chica—you didn't specify your age, but given your reference to getting driven to the mall and still living at home, I'll assume you're in high school. So stay away from sex—but if you do it, make sure to use birth control, because Mexican sperm is potent. Keep up your grades. Show Dad that your life won't worsen if a Mexi is your man, and that he's pendejo for even thinking about it. And remind him that frowning on interracial relationships is so Jim Crow era, and to get with the programa.

Why do you frijoleros (being myself of Iberian descent, if you can use gabacho you've gotta let me use this) assume that white people don't speak Spanish? You would not believe the crap I hear almost every day! We spoke Spanish when the Mexicans were still ripping out the hearts of their neighbors.

El Cid Soy

Dear Gachupín: A Spaniard who thinks he's white? HA! You gachupines are as gabacho as Mexicans are infertile.

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11 comments
Sonakshi25
Sonakshi25

Yeah, I know a woman who is a professional dater, she is always looking for the right guy and always disappears after first date...

White dating

Malachite141
Malachite141

I personally do not have any issues with a Mexican and a White dating. The only thing is that as a father I have not heard one thing about this guy that would make me think that he's a great catch. Nowhere does she states that he's going to school or trying to make something of himself. It sounds like the only thing he has going for him is that he has dark eyes and works for her dad.

Nre9055
Nre9055

Listen to your dad. You will be far happier married to someone from your own ethnic group. And your kids will thank you.

smith
smith

PIG’S (polish, irish, german, scottish) don't like Mexican?

lotsoflove
lotsoflove

How old are you? Your father is right. Listen to him......

Lac
Lac

hey white girl , listen to your father. Father knows best. you are the loser, for not trying to better yourself. Look else where, don't settle for less. mexican are second class citizen.

Yesi
Yesi

Wow..you just should your ignorance as soon as you let your fingers type the words that your mouth would utter. Sad...so sad that you would classify mexicans as second class. What is your nationality?

Guest
Guest

I'm a half Hispanic and white woman in her twenties. Because I'm half Mexican does that make me a second class citizen? Remember Mexicans do much of the crap work that no one else wants to do.

Aircav
Aircav

You obviously do not have a daughter or a daughter that is of age to start dating. The dad would feel the same way irregardless of the ethnicity of the guy. A dad will not accept anyone that he feels is not good enough for his daughter. As far as dating a mexican. I will bet that you would not oppose your daughter dating a white guy but, if he were a dark mexican from let us say, Guerrero, I am sure that you would find some fault with him(this is typical of the Mexican in the US)(you have to admit it).If you are Mexican, then I am dissapointed in your views in that you work in a medium that can be very useful in fostering a better understanding of the Mexican culture. But, your responses are dribble and you always seem to push for the reader to understand the way that Mexicans are and we should just accept it rather than promote a better way for Mexicans to intergrate and prosper in this culture. You have to admit that most Mexicans that come here(not all) bring with them "costumbres" rather than "cultura"This dad maybe "racist" "bigoted" etc.. but at the end of the day his gut feeling is that he would rather see his daughter date a guy that is in school with education as a priority as opposed to a guy that is working for him for just over minimum wage. In this you are just as bad as the dad. He doesnt want his daughter to date a Mexican(may not have focused on the most important issues as to why not i.e: education, culture(lack of), work ethic, morals, etc...) but, you are not focusing on these issues as well. You are just defending the Mexican guy because he is Mexican...and her dad does not want her to date him.

You see....you really are not better than the dad...and because you are in the position that you hold, you should be...

Chrstine461
Chrstine461

I couldnt have said it better myself! I dont care what nationality one is, I just want the best for my daughter. The Mexican defend Mexicans at whatever cost right or wrong, it's the Mexican way or no way at all. Which is totally wrong, the Mexican knows this girl should not be dating this person!

mike ellis
mike ellis

Have you ever heard of Father knows best? Your father wants what is best for you. Listen to him. You will wish you had.

 
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