The World Series game has been postponed so you need something new to do. Seems to us that Scott Pasfield's one-night reception for and book signing of Gay In America at Ilume Galerie is the obvious choice.
Why? Because it's equally American as apple pie and baseball -- it's just way more beautifully photographed and far more likely to change our perception of society. That's why.
Photographer Pasfield's book offers stories from and portraits of 140 gay men throughout our 50 states. Men with varied interests, jobs, backgrounds. Men who are dads, neighbors and sure, baseball fans.
Head to Ilume tonight between 6 and 9 p.m. to meet Pasfield, snag a book and have it signed. There will be a slideshow at 7:30 p.m. Donations of $10 benefit AIDS Arms, Inc. Dallas, Resource Center, Dallas and AIDS Interfaith Network, Dallas, and also provide a $10 credit toward a book purchase.
Now without further ado, we present our favorite of Pasfield's 50 states:
At thirty-one, I told my wife I was gay. She didn't believe me. So instead of rocking the boat, I stayed in a unhappy situation. As the years went on I grew to become one of the top horsemen in the country, as well as one of the most award-winning hair stylists. Finally the anger and guilt took over and I knew I had to be true to myself." -Bob, Scottsdale, AZ
"My father had enough. He put me in boxing classes and told me to stop being so passive. I spent the whole summer learning to defend myself. On the first day of tenth grade I got in a fight and made an example of the kid. If anyone insulted me I would curse them out so bad that they'd never want to utter another word to me. I became a bit of a bad ass, but I was happy because people stopped bullying me and started looking up to me. More and more boys started coming out of the closet, and became examples of how happy homosexual teens could be. I started a small gay student association at my school and became actively involved in a youth group for teenagers in the city. I'm not worried about fitting in anymore" -Jakoury, Chester, VA
"Ten years ago I thought I was living the American dream in Spokane, Washington, with a successful business and a beautiful home. I had all of life's accessories but I was spiritually stagnant. So I took off for the islands, camped on the beach for four months, and when I returned I realized that all I really had was just "stuff." I put everything up for sale and I've been having the time of my life ever since." -Jonny, Kailua Kona, HI
"Ultimately, I reconciled the pieces of myself more with my parents' teachings and with the Qur'an than in the actual community of Muslims on campus or in the trappings of religious rituals. So I gave up on trying to fit into that community (or pray the gay away for that matter). Instead, a more solitary spiritual habit became the little corner of faith I found, that, to this day, has sustained me and assured me that God loves me as I am and wants me to learn and grow from the challenge of accepting and being my whole myself." -Mudhillun, Newark, DE
"My one job on this earth is to be the best dad I can be and part of that comes from being true to myself. I remember telling my kids at a very early age that no matter what, they can come to me and tell me anything. I told them that our love is unconditional and it will never change. Then I got to thinking I better practice what I preach. I did as much research as I could on the subject of coming out to your kids. I nervously sat down with them for a family meeting in the living room on a Friday night. About halfway through my coming out speech, my son who was ten years old at the time, came over, squeezed my shoulder and said: "Just a second here, you are still my dad right?? I said, " Yes, of course." He then said: "Well then what is the big deal?" Wow! That was all I needed to hear. Love wins!" -John, Omaha, NE
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"I'm a bit of a maverick, a roamer, and a wanderer. The most stable time in my life was my childhood. Growing up in the Sierra Nevada Mountains in the small California town of Twain Harte. I spent all my time playing in the forest. We had miles and miles of woodland around us. As an adolescent I resented where I lived - it was too remote, too far from my friends. Now, as an adult, I envy those who are able to live and thrive there." -Brian, Austin, TX