The attention further boosted the calendar's sales that were already well on their way to raising at least $3,000 but one of the many reporters working on a story about the group spilled the news to the Children's Advocacy Center of Denton County that the moms planned to give the center all the money. Willingham said the moms in her group wanted to give the money to someone local committed to helping children. The Denton County CAC, according to its website, helps abused children by working with local law enforcement to "reduce the trauma to child victims when they must be involved in a criminal justice process," "promote emotional health through comprehensive counseling services to victims and non-offending family members" and "hold offenders accounts for abuse of children."
The group also provides child forensic interviews for law enforcement officials and Child Protective Services investigations and additional therapy and services for families affected by such abuse with a food pantry, clothing donations, school supplies and even meals and gifts during the holidays.
Stacie Wainscott, the group's development director, sent Willingham an email politely declining the offer.
"First of all, being a new mom of a 1-year-old, I really commend you and this group of moms for well 'just being you,'" Wainscott wrote in her email to Stacy. "However, due to the highly conservative nature of our organization, we are going to have to respectfully decline being one of your beneficiaries. Thank you for considering us and wanting to keep it local but I also know there is another deserving organization out there."
Willingham jumped on her Facebook page to unleash a rage torrent for her followers.
"She made a judgment based on our looks and appearances," Stacy said. "She didn't know that we're nurses, reporters, social workers and mothers too. She just making a judgment because we're tattooed and not conservative ... I am so mad."
Willingham said she believes their reasoning for turning down the money came from the same narrow-minded reasons that her group became such a popular force among pockets of motherhood that also turned away other moms and their children in need of companionship simply because of their choice of beauty modification or personal beliefs.
"I generally shied away from mom groups because I'm heavily tattooed, so I don't normally get invited back," said mother of six and group member Samantha Osbourn of Farmer's Branch. "I'll be honest. I didn't have family who thought twice about coming to visit. It meant a lot to have women who took time out of their lives to make sure my kids were fed and stuff when they really didn't have to."
"I didn't really try any other mom group because the only one I was interested in, the ladies from my message board were talking about their bad experience, the whole Judgy McJudgerson thing," said mother and group member Sabrina Steiner. "The biggest thing [Tattooed Hippie Pirate Mommas] did for me was give me a non-judgmental, non-panicky place to go."
Meanwhile, Willingham said she's looking for another charity.
"We chose this charity because all the moms in the calendar are from Denton and Dallas County and obviously we're mothers," she said. "We're advocates for children, so it was an obvious choice. It's their loss. We'll find someone who does want our money, who does want our donation."