Polygamy and Me

Seven months have passed since the polygamist raid in Eldorado, but for one mainstream Mormon, the effects linger

Evening falls on the Concho Valley. Along the highway, which is dotted with rusty oil derricks and gnarled mesquite, spring grasses peek out from the rocky soil. It's April 3, 2008, and few here know what is about to happen.

Up on Rudd Road, a man steps from his bullet-riddled shell of a trailer. He watches his goats graze in the rocky pasture and then sees them coming: cars with blacked-out windows he does not recognize, carrying Texas Rangers and sheriff's deputies he does not know. He can guess where they are headed. Like everyone else in Eldorado, Texas, he knows what lies up the road.

The cars continue up the two-lane blacktop until they arrive at the gates of the Yearning for Zion Ranch. They sit outside and wait.

A mile up a dirt road another world exists. It's a world the U.S. government has been trying to eradicate for more than 150 years. Mobs and armies and judges have pushed the Mormon polygamists from the badlands of Missouri to the barren deserts of Utah to this place—a scab of scrubland in West Texas.

The men at the gate are prepared for the worst: a Waco-style standoff, a Jonestown-style mass suicide. They've heard stories about the fundamentalist Mormons who live here—about child brides and stockpiled weapons and mysterious accidents that befall those who try to leave the fold. The men can see the gleaming white temple, built from limestone quarried from the hills surrounding the YFZ Ranch, where, rumor has it, plural marriages are consummated in an upstairs room outfitted with a bed. And they have heard about the group's prophet, the jailed pedophile Warren Jeffs, and his doctrine of ritual sacrifice known as blood atonement.

The men at the gate wait for word. The sheriff has instructed his dispatcher to shut down all but one channel. The last thing they want is for the media to get wind of this, at least for the time being. They know this could turn bad, and fast.

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The next morning, 350 miles to the north, I rise from my bed to wake my oldest son. Today is a special day on the Mormon calendar. Twice a year, in April and October, members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints gather for a two-day General Conference to hear the church's Salt Lake City-based leadership (mostly old men in dark suits and conservative ties) deliver sermons on topics like faith, tithing and the evils of pornography, alcohol and smoking—all of which Mormonism forbids. These talks, as Mormons call them, are about 15 minutes each, divided among two sessions on Saturday and two on Sunday. While some Mormons travel to Salt Lake City to attend, most watch on the Internet or at their nearest Mormon chapel via satellite.

That's why my parents are in town this morning. Together with my wife and two young sons, we will drive to a nearby church in Allen and watch the broadcast.

We live in Plano in a two-story townhouse, not far from shaded walking trails and a big park surrounded by North Texas woods. I watch my son sleep for a moment and think about the legacy of faith into which he has been born. For six generations, the Hyde family has practiced Mormonism. Of my dozens of cousins and aunts and uncles on both sides of my family, only one has left the church. For all of us, Mormonism is nothing we backslide into on Sunday mornings; it's a cradle-to-grave lifestyle that insists on 24-7 devotion.

I am putting on a white shirt and tie, the same sort of outfit I wore as a missionary in Brazil after my freshman year at Brigham Young University, when I hear my cell phone beep. It's a text message from a friend in Salt Lake City, a fellow journalist who has left the faith.

"You better get down to Eldorado," it reads. I have no idea what he is talking about.

"The polygamists," he writes. "They've got the polygamists."

I call him, and he says that the police have raided a fundamentalist Mormon compound where a sect of renegade polygamists live. There's some sort of standoff, he says, and a violent confrontation is possible.

As we drive to church, I mention to my parents the situation unfolding in Eldorado, but they seem only mildly interested. Like most mainstream Mormons, they see no connection between themselves and the breakaway sects of fundamentalist Mormons. The mainstream Mormon church banned polygamy nearly 120 years ago.

"I didn't even know there were polygamists in Texas," my mom says, and before long the subject shifts.

At the chapel, we take our place in the cushioned pews before the broadcast begins. The Mormon Tabernacle Choir sings a hymn, a prayer is said and a report is given on the status of the church. It has been a good year. There are now more than 13 million members, with more living outside North America than within it. Mormon temples dot the globe, from Manhattan to Hong Kong.

As I listen to a sermon on the life of Jesus Christ, I wonder how many Mormons in the audience, especially in places like the Philippines and Brazil, understand how far we have come as a people. Once, the governor of Missouri issued an extermination order to rid his state of its Mormon population. Recently a former governor of Massachusetts, a Mormon named Mitt Romney, had been a leading candidate for the Republican presidential nomination.

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  • NOYB 08/09/2011 2:37:00 AM

    cheese nut log

  • Erin 12/11/2009 7:09:00 AM

    Although written a while ago, I just now read your reflections. I came upon your writings because I have an interest in Rozita Swinton. I came to know Rozita in a very unique way, soon after the raid. Confidentiality laws prevent me from sharing any details, but I can assure you the calls that spurred the raid were of nothing but false content and essentially a hoax. Without taking into account that abuse may have been occuring at the ranch, it is a shame that Rozita chose her actions, as much harm was done. She revels in the attention this has gotten her but insists she is not guilty. Complicated laws about a crime committed across states has prevented Rozita from facing any real consequences. I would not doubt that she will resurface some time in the future for something else far out and senseless like this. She caused a major disturbance that has longterm effects. As a person that knew her personally, I am certain she knows this and it pleases her to no end. So, was it a hoax? Yes.

  • Susan 12/01/2008 12:04:00 AM

    Excellent opinion piece that I enjoyed reading. I also worried about the children being taken from mothers, how can this happen when no abuse has been documented? I also worried about claims made by the State that never were supported with facts like the "marriage bed". If true it is disgusting, but if true surely the State would have already released some kind of documents. On the other hand, I clearly see how the community can be treated as one big family. What is proclaimed by the leader is law to the entire community, no dissenters. For example, Warren Jeffs issued a statement that the color red could no longer be worn because of some reason or other. So the entire community does just that, does that make sense? What would be next? People blindly following a leader, never questioning his authority or doctrine, these are a community of sheep. So I have no problem considering the FLDS is one big family. I do have a large problem with the idea of polygamy or a faith because of traditions or because it is "natural". If you follow that reasoning then women should continue having babies squatting in the woods, why take modern medicines, we managed to survive without penicillin. Why have dental care or take look after our elderly, its natural to have rotten teeth and die by 50? And my last concern is with men having broods of babies with young girls then allowing the government to pay them with food stamps and welfare checks. Why is this allowed to happen? We live in an open society, and no group should be allowed to lock themselves away from the public eye when children are involved. If they feel this strong about their faith then they can move to another society where I'm sure their right to practice their religion will be tolerated, maybe the Middle East will accept them. Texas was afraid for this Sarah child, and also afraid there would be another Waco, the fact that there was no shoot-outs and the children were mostly returned with only a few tears speaks highly of our society and our government. I feel for the writer of this piece, he is struggling with leaving his church, if he does he will loose most of his family, and possibly his wife and children. Is it any wonder why people continue to "pretend" to believe? And if he feels persecuted as a Mormon, try life as an atheist. Actually once you get past all the hatred aimed towards you it is quite freeing.

  • John 11/06/2008 5:03:00 PM

    I appreciated your story. I grow up the FLDS community and I just wanted to share a couple of my thoughts, if you didn�t mind. About the point where Willy Jessop said, �you can kill us, but we will not stop living our religion.� That is a very different approach then most American parents would take, but the basic story of Mormonism is about a family that was willing to give it all up to live God�s commandments. As Americans, we have lost perspective about God is, �Life.� We think giving our children toys and education is more important then providing opportunities for Life. Personally, I think God is less concerned about someone�s Master Degree then he is about another child on Earth. I�m not knocking education and betterment of ourselves, but polygamy is a tool of LIFE. It has been the Tool by which God has started almost every culture on the planet. In fact, you would be hard pressed to show me any culture on earth that does find its roots in polygamy. Polygamists are sort of like colonists, or engineers that lay the foundation for what is to come. These particular polygamists believe that God has set them apart to do a special work. So many modern Americans look at the past and wonder, �How could there possibly be a God, look how ignorant His followers are.� Yet, when I look at the circumstances of modern life . . . . I stutter. How fragile we are, how quickly our cities could burn, how quickly the population could starve, etc. And some where out there is a people living the principles of �early life.� What if there is a God? What if polygamy is His, �Start-a-new-culture� tool? No one in polygamy claims that it is easy, they claim that they believe they were called to a work. And I like your point. Would the LDS church excommunicate Joseph Smith if he returned? Would Joseph Smith be proud of his church, or would he go looking for fundies? The truth, the whole world is in your shoes, and my shoes. None of us would be here without polygamy. The planet is 4.5 billion years old. Life has existed here approximately 2.5 billion of those years. Humans, if you go back to our earliest known parent, has been here about 3 million year. Modern man really didn�t evolve until perhaps the last 150,000 thousand years. The last 15,000 years has been significant. So in the 1/166667 fraction of time that man has been here and in the last 1500 years, we�ve decided that we knew how to manage Life better then God. I don�t want to make excuses for bad behavior. Warren Jeffs deserves what he has as far as I am concerned. But polygamy is a tool for Life. Perhaps not for you or other educated Americans, but perhaps God still sees a need for it. Frankly, with our new President Elect, I�m suddenly scared. Polygamists have been prophesying a color war in American. Things could go well over the next few years, or some Redneck could do something stupid and trigger an event that could shake the world. They�ve been told to look for certain signs . . . and well, those signs are appearing. I suppose that the best thing American can hope is that these polygamists are a bunch of crazy loons. But what if they are . . . not? What if God does have a need for them? What if he sees a need for His trusty ole tools for re-establishing life? I�m not really into the whole dooms-day thing, but it doesn�t even have to be that. 100 years ago, this group could meet in a small living room. They have faith, they know how to multiple, (at least in children, if not actual mathematics.) Even if you got rid of 99% of them, it wouldn�t be enough. They�re faith is in God, and for the most part, (God being no respecter of persons) hasn�t really let them down.

 

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